“How can I heal?” is one of the most common questions I get after people sign up to my newsletter. Learning to live wholeheartedly after loss is a journey with many different lessons and skills that need to be collected a long the way – and of course our grieving journeys and lessons are quite unique…
Category Archives: Creating New Possibilities
A Creative Practice For Living Wholeheartedly After Loss
Most people who are struggling with grief don’t come to me saying, “I want to learn to live wholeheartedly after loss.” Usually, they say something like, “I want to stop feeling so depressed/ anxious/ tired/ angry. I want to stop crying all the time/ feeling demotivated and direction-less/ avoiding intimacy because I’m afraid of loving…
Why You Should Be Suspicious of Stories About Grief & Healing
Yesterday a good friend of mine posted this video of Tyler Cowen, an economist, speaking about why we should be suspicious of stories. Tyler’s point: Stories make a messy reality seem neat, purposeful, meaningful, and that’s one of the reasons why our brains love stories. But the problem is that reality is actually very messy, complex…
The Most Important Internal Resource That Will Help You To Live Wholeheartedly After Loss
In your journey of learning to live wholeheartedly after loss, if you were able to ask a fairy godmother for just one internal resource that you’d be able to receive in abundance, what would you ask for? What character trait, mindset or internal resource do you think would make the greatest difference in your journey?…
A Warm Cup Of Sani-tea
I created this collage and wrote the notes for it on 17 January 2011. Here’s what I wrote in my journal about the collage: I know deep down that now is a time of waiting. I can squirm and shout and try to force things, but nothing is happening in a hurry. I have to…
Reality Is Diverse
“Reality is diverse.” – Nancy Kline I’ve had the memory of this quote pop into my head frequently over the past year. It comes from Nancy Kline, the author of Time To Think and the creator of a really useful change process called, “The Thinking Environment. It’s so simple that you could pass it by and…
