Category Archives: Feeling It All

Grieving Newtown (And Everything Else We Grieve Deeply For)

Grief is designed for slowing us down and turning us inward to reflect on our beliefs and values, so that we can integrate new ways of being that are closer to our deepest truths. I’m not suggesting that this is *why* losses happen – just that *when* losses happen, we have EVERYTHING we need inside…

Three Precious Words For Grievers & The People Supporting Them

Yes. You can say you don’t know. In fact, please┬ábe willing to admit that when it comes to the mysteries of life and death and grief there’s so much you don’t know! Your beloved died suddenly and you don’t know know what to make of it. You don’t know what death was like for them,…

A Creative Practice For Living Wholeheartedly After Loss

Most people who are struggling with grief don’t come to me saying, “I want to learn to live wholeheartedly after loss.” Usually, they say something like, “I want to stop feeling so depressed/ anxious/ tired/ angry. I want to stop crying all the time/ feeling demotivated and direction-less/ avoiding intimacy because I’m afraid of loving…

“Security Comes From Knowing That, Whatever Happens, You Can Handle It…” (And Other Wisdom I’m Remembering)

Sometimes I read stuff I wrote way back when, and I think, “I wrote that… I didn’t even know that I knew that?” ‘Cos I forget, you know. I wrote this post in Sept 2009. Today I’m remembering it and wanted to share this adapted version with you. I found this video of a sand…

Trying To Be Positive Doesn’t Work – Especially When You’re Grieving

I originally wrote this entry on 28 October 2010 at AgileLiving.net. The responses can still be found at the original post. After my post sharing about the death and birth of our little girl, I was flooded with emails – people sharing their stories of similar experiences, people expressing gratitude for something they resonated with…